[March 24, 2024//Revised and added June 16 2024//Final draft September 3, 2024]
It’s well known that all men want a mother….. that isn’t a mother in their lives, especially in a partner. That is a simple truth so many escape in some way and not other because of experience…And Vice Versa; Why is it some secret implication though? That if a man has a GOOD relationship (even with problems can still be good) and lasting relationship with his matriarch (and vice versa)- that he is not capable of so much more…And so much of all of us is determinate of this very Freudian, very over salted take on the basis of gender rules and roles. SO enjoy the salt with me for just a moment.
How do we break it apart other than by defining the difference and responsibilities of the man’s self and the community he chose to shape him. His biases and subconscious work on this basic level and realization of one’s rearing is just one part of this realization. With any luck all of that comes quickly for all of us. This is all just merely step one…in the penultimate goal of buttering self and forming community- or even….Imagine…GOD I hate that word…but stay with me and imagine forming a family you see coming and didn’t know what to do but say yes to because nature made you be around more than you wanted to be.
Family units shift. People come and go but if you get a core group of stupid ass dreamers then weird things start happening. When it’s even happened in my life then I know we are all in for a shock. Stick together through all the strange vibrations and short circuited moments to arrive at things maybe being comfortable and ok for once. A way to pass along a legacy of positive human interaction instead of just being such a goddamned bummer all the time. Rather than yet another kind heart gone to waste on something as stupid as the war that society wants us to fight, instead of just loving and letting love be.
We have decimated every bit of our solid community. Even gardening has been ruined. Cooking has either been medicalized for survival or treated as some risqué affair not to be imparted on unless your intentions are impure.
Or worse….categorized as “Therapeutic.”
These are the cores of our essence and evolution. Things that are lore to our existence….and yet in the modern capitalized world out there….those tasks have been filed either as means for peaking our monetary income instead of being our nature to do and enjoy together. The premise of survival has had the essence of its plot changed. Our meanings have been confused and our instincts absolutely honed to be extreme instead of trusted.
The “therap-ication” of every second of our daily lives is ruining just simply living and enjoying it. Those things make us run up ladders of steps and chase our tails instead of MAKING A FUCKING CHOICE. Those things which are closes to our humanness deduced to nothing meaningful for so many of us now.
What then, (who the hell do I think I am, Thoreau? nahhhh try again.)
What the fuck are we supposed to do about it? What’s left at the center? Our means of physical and spiritual creation-our ONENESS- our center that holds us and then in turn helps hold our communities together….no matter how new and shallow they may feel. We are given chances in life to be exactly who were are and we have to take them.
We have to stop trying to take our own vibrations and hiding them away. Everything we are. Man must stop filing everything under me, and instead file it under the “we” and the “us.” Every decision we make to be there for one another is another step in the right direction for everyone.
Always Around 🦇 